The circle is small but plentiful!

Do you keep your friendship circle small ⭕️, or is it all open access soirée?

When I was a kid, I always wanted to have big parties where all my friends could come and enjoy my day with me, but as I grew older, I noticed that I had several circles and realized my crew of crews could never be allowed together in one space (😂 iykyk). It’s funny because it truly reflects my personality and various chapters in my life. So, my first and true friendship was with my cousins of course. However, they moved and I had to navigate this world without them. So, when middle school came I foundmy neighborhood crew and school crew. In high school I was the popular by default kid, but those were also my middle school crew too. Then college was a fog, so many people coming and leaving, but I met my A1 and although we don’t see each other often when we get together you know a good time will be had. Now present day and grown with kids. My kids played sports. My circle was really tested during those years because as a coach’s wife you have to be cordial to everyone. However, there was a set of ladies (not all pictured below) that have been by my side since our kids joined the sports era. They would check me when I would get out of pocket with people in the stands (if you’re a sports mom then ykyk) and held me accountable for making sure I carried myself in the light they knew me as and not for moment when you’re not you’re best. Since then our kids have graduated, but they still support the younger kids that have ventured away from sports. One thing for sure and two things for certain we don’t play about #LLL4L (I will share in depth another time cuz that mixed tape could never be duplicated 😂). Nonetheless, it showed that our friendship was stronger than the event and that held volume with me. We have entered new chapters where discussions are wholesome and more about life than kids. Some of us have entered the peri and menopause world (that’s a series in itself). Some have changed partners and positions in life, but we still find time to support each others endeavors throughout our lives. So all in all, my people are my people and they’re aligned to my current lifestyle and definitely my future.

So with that being said, some people are great at having all their people in a room at one time. Is that you; if so is it from growing together or they make it work because they love you? Do you appreciate connections as a whole or prefer to see them in chunks? Have you gained greater trust, and more authentic relationships with your A1’s and has it allowed you to invest more time and energy into the people you favor? I know it has for me. I like it small and quaint because I’m selfish behind my friends but it’s all love and we have a great time together.

Here’s my take on why I choose small rather than big:

Benefits of a small friendship circle

• Deeper, more authentic connections: With a smaller group, you have more time to build trust and get to know individuals on a deeper level, leading to more meaningful friendships.
• Increased trust and support: A close-knit group fosters a sense of security, making it easier to share feelings and receive emotional support without fear of judgment.
• Reduced stress and drama: Fewer relationships can mean fewer conflicts and less social obligation, leading to a more peaceful and less stressful life.
• Personal growth: Surrounding yourself with people who have similar values and support your goals can help you become a better version of yourself.
• Greater privacy: A smaller circle can make it easier to maintain privacy and control the flow of personal information. 

Shout to my current crew TT-Toi and Tascha/A1-MeeMee since college/Ina, Trina and Tasha-since middle and high school/Cousins-since grade school (we are growing back together and I love that for us those near and far).

As always “Never Negate the Nu-N-U