Do you ever find yourself struggling to believe the compliments you receive, even though others consistently see your strengths and abilities? This feeling, is often linked to imposter syndrome can leave you feeling undervalued despite external evidence of your competence. The good news is that recognizing and internalizing your worth is a skill that can be cultivated.
How many times a week does imposter syndrome occur in your life? For myself, it can be several times a day and I not realize that it’s happening, that’s why I have a to do list for the day. If you’re into scrolling, such as myself (I know terrible habit but I’m working on this) you can find yourself in whirlwind of accomplishing absolutely nothing. I saw this post where someone said you don’t need a journal, self-help or affirmations etc. and I was like wow all these are things I share on my page, but you can’t follow everything you see and hear on social media, therefore, I will continue to write in my planner, my journal, and even complete my adult coloring sheets if that’s what helps me to cope. If I don’t have a to do list, then the do won’t get done. I take the tidbits of social media and apply them as needed because I know we have hard days at this thing called life.
Here’s how to start seeing yourself at your best:
1. Challenge the Inner Critic
Self-judgement is often harsher than the judgement of others. When negative thoughts arise, it’s important to pause and question their accuracy. It is beneficial to consider if you would speak to a friend in the same way, advises Mind. Reframing these thoughts and focusing on evidence of your capabilities is crucial.
2. Cultivate Self-Compassion
Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding offered to a loved one facing similar doubts. Acknowledge that everyone makes mistakes and see setbacks as chances for growth, not proof of inadequacy. Practice mindful self-talk and remember that you are worthy, regardless of your accomplishments or external validation.
3. Leverage External Feedback
Actively seek out and accept compliments and praise, allowing them to be recognized instead of immediately dismissing them. Consider asking trusted friends, family, or colleagues for specific examples of when they’ve seen you at your best or what they value about you. Recording these affirmations in a journal can provide a powerful reminder of your strengths during moments of self-doubt.
4. Focus on Progress, Not Perfection
Instead of striving for an unattainable ideal, celebrate progress, no matter how small. Recognize that growth is a journey, and each step forward is a testament to ability and determination.
By intentionally practicing self-compassion, challenging negative self-talk, and accepting external validation, it is possible to begin shifting your perspective and embrace the valuable person that others already see. Remember, your worth is inherent; it’s not something you need to earn or prove.
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Ok ok ok let’s close out this post:
Life is about elevating and growing
Seeing value in yourself also helps you understand how much of a value you are to others.
As always “Never negate the Nu-N-U”
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